“She really wanted to be a good friend, and I didn’t see a place for that. Because I’m more of a private person and tend to have very close, intimate friendships, it was very difficult for me to be pursued by her. I had to tell her that just wasn’t going to work for me.” There are many ways to handle your relationship with the ex.
Your husband once loved that woman enough to marry her and have children with her. She has redeeming qualities. She’s a human being just like you, who has fears and insecurities and jealousies that both of you can rise above if you choose to—or, at least, you can. Learn how to shrug off the little annoyances.
Concentrate on your husband and your new stepfamily. Keep in mind that no matter how much you think that woman is trying to sabotage your marriage, you and your husband are the ones who determine what goes on inside your relationship.
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