Many fathers express openly their desire for their new wives to instantly love their children so they can all be one big happy family. The result is a woman who is trapped by the family she is so valiantly trying to create.
Consider how this response from one dad made his new wife feel: “How could you hate a kid?” Wham! It’s easy to hate a kid if you feel threatened, or gagged and bound, or taken advantage of, or harassed. As a stepmom, you don’t have the same feelings for that kid as his parents do. You don’t have the same connection, and yet when kids are challenging, you’re still expected to feel unconditional love.
Though you and your spouse should have discussions so he understands you can’t feel the same way he does about his kids, be careful about what you share with your husband. Telling your man that you dislike or hate his kids will hurt him deeply and make him feel protective of his kids.
Why not tell your best friends your feelings? Then those negative emotions won’t be yet another hurdle for your marriage.
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