Stepmotherhood is more difficult for women who feel pressure to like or love their husband’s children. I have interviewed many stepmothers who, with tears in their eyes, have whispered to me that they don’t even like their stepkids. Some say they hate them. The words are heavily laced with guilt and shame.
Stepmoms don’t understand how they can love a niece or nephew without reservation and hate this step-creature they feel they should love. Sandy never wanted to be a parent. When she married her husband, she acquired two new stepsons who lived in another state.
For the entire first year of her marriage she hardly saw her stepsons, but then they started coming to live with Sandy and their father, Tim, every summer. “Every time my stepsons came, I did not look forward to it. I hated it.
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