Many fathers express openly their desire for their new wives to instantly love their children so they can all be one big happy family. The result is a woman who is trapped by the family she is so valiantly trying to create.
Consider how this response from one dad made his new wife feel: “How could you hate a kid?” Wham! It’s easy to hate a kid if you feel threatened, or gagged and bound, or taken advantage of, or harassed. Continue Reading →
My husband and I had no alone time when his sons were there. No sex. No nothing.” Sandy admits she was deeply resentful that Tim even had children, though she never let her stepsons see her negative emotions.
“I wanted to say to my husband, ‘What were you thinking?’ I was so pissed no one consulted me about this! You totally screwed up our lives by having these children. Continue Reading →
Stepmotherhood is more difficult for women who feel pressure to like or love their husband’s children. I have interviewed many stepmothers who, with tears in their eyes, have whispered to me that they don’t even like their stepkids. Some say they hate them. The words are heavily laced with guilt and shame. Continue Reading →
“She really wanted to be a good friend, and I didn’t see a place for that. Because I’m more of a private person and tend to have very close, intimate friendships, it was very difficult for me to be pursued by her. I had to tell her that just wasn’t going to work for me.” There are many ways to handle your relationship with the ex. Continue Reading →
Dannette reports that the ex’s behavior changed when they redecorated the house. “We redid every room so it was our home. It sent a signal to her. I remember we were redoing the kitchen. It had been dark, and we repainted it white.
When she came into the house, she didn’t just run up the stairs and grab something out of the fridge.” Stacy set boundaries with her husband’s help. Continue Reading →